It's all about the Milestones

When you start thinking about your life, you choices, your past, where you are now and where you are heading or might head in the future, a thought might cross your mind. A simple thought that many of us had a chance to experience at least once in their lifetime.

The thought that everyone had at one point is a simple question. Many have asked themselves and many might have delayed the answer. The questions at hand is not a self-doubting question of ourselves, think of it more as a checkpoint.

Am I going in the right direction?

If you analyze your life habbits and choices, you might say that there are some improvements that can be done here and there. Nobody is perfect and everyone should know this because it will help you get over your insecurities.

I am not saying that you might have regrets. People say that they have regrets and this is not something that I entertain. My philosphy is that we should never have regrets, ever, at all, NONE.

We should live our lives exactly how we want, within the law and the social construct of where we are.

I lived and guided myself through life, as years passed by, and I said to myself:

Have I done everything that I could do and is within my power?

It's a great question to ask yourself sometimes. Maybe at the end of a long day or on your birthday. This is one of the principles I guide myself and live by just because it will help you sleep at night.

If I answer "Yes" to the question, then no regrets, moving on to the next chapter, no looking back, another "Tick" on the big list of my "To Do" in life. It will be done and dusted and will be in my past.

If I answer "No", then I start looking at many other choices and options that I have and think in detail what I can do so I can get back to the main question and be able to answer a big "Yes!". Yes, I have done everything that I could do at this time and within my power.

Such a turn point in life I had recently.

This year, end of summer, I received the news that I will have another child. This would be my second child. What a wonderful news I said to myself. The miracle of life. My mind imediately started grinding and thinking many thoughts as I could clearly see that I entered in overload mode and started having massive headaches.

Stress was piling up with work, at home, a lot of changes would come in my life in the upcoming months.

My firstborn would go to nursery, my wife would start a new job, I would have to do school runs and work from home, remotely.

Lots of changes happened in the next months, and I also went to the doctor because I could not shake the headaches.

What I am going to do? What is my plan?

I started asking a lot of questions while getting my life in order. I started writing everything down:

• Do I have enough rooms or am I going to change houses soon? Before or after the child is born?
• What name to pick? If it's a girl, it's a boy, what would it be?
• Crib, toys, clothes, bottles, formula, nappies, baby carriage... Do I have everything? Do I have enough financial resources?

As I mentioned, I wrote everything down, planning, each scenario in my head to pick not only the best choices that I can at this moment in time, but what I can actually do to have the best outcome in the future.

The stress faded away, the headaches dissapeared... Doctor said I need Vitamin D and after taking a few pills, every day for a month, tested with MRI and checking with the doctor once in a while, everything became a bit more clear and I needed a change of scenery.

I found myself thinking, what can I change in my life, what is in my control, that can benefit my family, my kids, myself?

This would be counted as one of my many milestones in life, identified on the 13th of December, 2023.

I quit smoking and I didn't want to actually quit on this day. I wanted to quit on the 22nd of December 2023 and it was unexpected, as I was testing the waters, after many failed attempts to quit smoking, to see if I can actually do it with this method.

I did it. I was able to quit. I will write more about how I quit smoking in another article because the point of this article is a different one.

The point of this article is that we need to reflect on what we did and what we can do, to improve ourselves. This should be a key aspect of our life.

Not just professionally by getting new certifications and awards or moving to a better job, but also on the personal side of things.

There are changes that can impact your life for the better, good changes that are not only meant for you alone. Your family and friends can benefit from it.

Key points in life are made every single day without actually realizing it. I quit smoking, thus I am becoming a better person, healthier, a good example for my kids, ambitious because I don't need a cigarette to maintain calm and focus.

Changes are there, you might not see it now, or tomorrow, but eventually, you will get on track.

Remember, when in doubt, well, not exactly in doubt per say, but when you feel down and you think you cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel, remember that you can lift yourself up, think of what brings you joy in life and hang on to that moment.

You can test the waters, try, see if you can, and you would be surprised of what you can achieve, if you just put your mind to it.

Have a great day and hope you view other articles on the website.